[Attributor] Use fine-grained liveness in all helpers

We used coarse-grained liveness before, thus we looked if the
instruction was executed, but we did not use fine-grained liveness,
hence if the instruction was needed or could be deleted even if the
surrounding ones are live. This patches introduces this level of
liveness checks together with other liveness queries, e.g., for uses.

For more control we enforce that all liveness queries go through the
Attributor.

Test have been adjusted to reflect the changes or augmented to prevent
deletion of the parts we want to check.

Reviewed By: sstefan1

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D73313