[LV] Record GEP widening decisions in recipe (NFCI)

InnerLoopVectorizer's code called during VPlan execution still relies on
original IR's def-use relations to decide which vector code to generate,
limiting VPlan transformations ability to modify def-use relations and still
have ILV generate the vector code.
This commit moves GEP operand queries controlling how GEPs are widened to a
dedicated recipe and extracts GEP widening code to its own ILV method taking
those recorded decisions as arguments. This reduces ingredient def-use usage by
ILV as a step towards full VPlan-based def-use relations.

Differential revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D69067