[ELF] Replace LazyObjFile with lazy ObjFile/BitcodeFile

The new `lazy` state is the inverse of the previous `LazyObjFile::extracted`.
There are many advantages:

* previously when a LazyObjFile was extracted, a new ObjFile/BitcodeFile was created; now the file is reused, just with `lazy` cleared
* avoid the confusing transfer of `symbols` from LazyObjFile to the new file
* the `incompatible file:` diagnostic is unified with `is incompatible with`
* simpler code, smaller executable (6200+ bytes smaller on x86-64)
* make eager parsing feasible (for parallel section/symbol table initialization)