[SDAG] try harder to fold casts into vector compare

sext (vsetcc X, Y) --> vsetcc (zext X), (zext Y) --
(when the zexts are free and a bunch of other conditions)

We have a couple of similar folds to this already for vector selects,
but this pattern slips through because it is only a setcc.

The tests are based on the motivating case from:
https://llvm.org/PR50055
...but we need extra logic to get that example, so I've left that as
a TODO for now.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D103280