[SLP] restrict matching of load combine candidates

The test example from https://llvm.org/PR50256 (and reduced here)
shows that we can match a load combine candidate even when there
are no "or" instructions. We can avoid that by confirming that we
do see an "or". This doesn't apply when matching an or-reduction
because that match begins from the operands of the reduction.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D102074