[CodeGen] Fix warnings in foldCONCAT_VECTORS

Instead of asserting the number of elements is the same, we should be
comparing the element counts instead. In addition, when looking at
concats of extract_subvectors it's fine to use getVectorMinNumElements()
for scalable vectors.

I discovered these warnings when compiling the structured loads tests in
this file:

  test/CodeGen/AArch64/sve-intrinsics-loads.ll

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D81936