Make the DenseMap bucket type configurable and use a smaller bucket for DenseSet.

DenseSet used to be implemented as DenseMap<Key, char>, which usually doubled
the memory footprint of the map. Now we use a compressed set so the second
element uses no memory at all. This required some surgery on DenseMap as
all accesses to the bucket now have to go through methods; this should
have no impact on the behavior of DenseMap though. The new default bucket
type for DenseMap is a slightly extended std::pair as we expose it through
DenseMap's iterator and don't want to break any existing users.

llvm-svn: 223588