[Attributor] Remember only necessary dependences

Before we eagerly put dependences into the QueryMap as soon as we
encountered them (via `Attributor::getAAFor<>` or
`Attributor::recordDependence`). Now we will wait to see if the
dependence is useful, that is if the target is not already in a fixpoint
state at the end of the update. If so, there is no need to record the
dependence at all.

Due to the abstraction via `Attributor::updateAA` we will now also treat
the very first update (during attribute creation) as we do subsequent
updates.

Finally this resolves the problematic usage of QueriedNonFixAA.

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Single run of the Attributor module and then CGSCC pass (oldPM)
for SPASS/clause.c (~10k LLVM-IR loc):

Before:
```
calls to allocation functions: 554675 (389245/s)
temporary memory allocations: 101574 (71280/s)
peak heap memory consumption: 28.46MB
peak RSS (including heaptrack overhead): 116.26MB
total memory leaked: 269.10KB
```

After:
```
calls to allocation functions: 512465 (345559/s)
temporary memory allocations: 98832 (66643/s)
peak heap memory consumption: 22.54MB
peak RSS (including heaptrack overhead): 106.58MB
total memory leaked: 269.10KB
```

Difference:
```
calls to allocation functions: -42210 (-727758/s)
temporary memory allocations: -2742 (-47275/s)
peak heap memory consumption: -5.92MB
peak RSS (including heaptrack overhead): 0B
total memory leaked: 0B
```