[PM] Teach the inliner's call graph update to handle inserting new edges

when they are call edges at the leaf but may (transitively) be reached
via ref edges.

It turns out there is a simple rule: insert everything as a ref edge
which is a safe conservative default. Then we let the existing update
logic handle promoting some of those to call edges.

Note that it would be fairly cheap to make these call edges right away
if that is desirable by testing whether there is some existing call path
from the source to the target. It just seemed like slightly more
complexity in this code path that isn't strictly necessary. If anyone
feels strongly about handling this differently I'm happy to change it.

llvm-svn: 290649