[TTI][ARM][MVE] Refine gather/scatter cost model

Refines the gather/scatter cost model, but also changes the TTI
function getIntrinsicInstrCost to accept an additional parameter
which is needed for the gather/scatter cost evaluation.
This did require trivial changes in some non-ARM backends to
adopt the new parameter.
Extending gathers and truncating scatters are now priced cheaper.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D75525