[memcpyopt] Teach memcpyopt to optimize across basic blocks

This teaches memcpyopt to make a non-local memdep query when a local query
indicates that the dependency is non-local. This notably allows it to
eliminate many more llvm.memcpy calls in common Rust code, often by 20-30%.

This is r319482 and r319483, along with fixes for PR35519: fix the 
optimization that merges stores into memsets to preserve cached memdep
info, and fix memdep's non-local caching strategy to not assume that larger
queries are always more conservative than smaller ones.

Fixes PR28958 and PR35519.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D40802

llvm-svn: 321138