[ASTReader] Allow controlling separately whether validation should be disabled...

[ASTReader] Allow controlling separately whether validation should be disabled for a PCH vs a module file

This addresses an issue with how the PCH preable works, specifically:

1. When using a PCH/preamble the module hash changes and a different cache directory is used
2. When the preamble is used, PCH & PCM validation is disabled.

Due to combination of #1 and #2, reparsing with preamble enabled can end up loading a stale module file before a header change and using it without updating it because validation is disabled and it doesn’t check that the header has changed and the module file is out-of-date.

rdar://72611253

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D95159