lld-link: Add --color-diagnostics(={always,never,auto})?, --no-color-diagnostics flags.

This is most useful when using lld-link on a non-Win host (but it might become
useful on Windows too if lld also grows a fansi-escape-codes flag).

Also make the help for --color-diagnostic mention the valid values in ELF and
wasm, and print the flag name with two dashes in diags, since the one-dash form
is seen as a list of many one-letter flags in some contexts.

https://reviews.llvm.org/D46693

llvm-svn: 332012