Restructure checking for, and warning on, lifetime extension.

This change implements C++ DR1696, which makes initialization of a
reference member of a class from a temporary object ill-formed. The
standard wording here is imprecise, but we interpret it as meaning that
any time a mem-initializer would result in lifetime extension, the
program is ill-formed.

This reinstates r337226, reverted in r337255, with a fix for the
InitializedEntity alignment problem that was breaking ARM buildbots.

llvm-svn: 337329