clang+lld: Improve clang+ld.darwinnew.lld interaction, pass -demangle

This patch:
- adds an ld64.lld.darwinnew symlink for lld, to go with f2710d4b,
  so that `clang -fuse-ld=lld.darwinnew` can be used to test new
  Mach-O lld while it's in bring-up. (The expectation is that we'll
  remove this again once new Mach-O lld is the defauld and only Mach-O
  lld.)
- lets the clang driver know if the linker is lld (currently
  only triggered if `-fuse-ld=lld` or `-fuse-ld=lld.darwinnew` is
  passed). Currently only used for the next point, but could be used
  to implement other features that need close coordination between
  compiler and linker, e.g. having a diag for calling `clang++` instead
  of `clang` when link errors are caused by a missing C++ stdlib.
- lets the clang driver pass `-demangle` to Mach-O lld (both old and
  new), in addition to ld64
- implements -demangle for new Mach-O lld
- changes demangleItanium() to accept _Z, __Z, ___Z, ____Z prefixes
  (and updates one test added in D68014). Mach-O has an extra
  underscore for symbols, and the three (or, on Mach-O, four)
  underscores are used for block names.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D91884