[VectorCombine] scalarize compares with insertelement operand(s)

Generalize scalarization (recently enhanced with D80885)
to allow compares as well as binops.
Similar to binops, we are avoiding scalarization of a loaded
value because that could avoid a register transfer in codegen.
This requires 1 extra predicate that I am aware of: we do not
want to scalarize the condition value of a vector select. That
might also invert a transform that we do in instcombine that
prefers a vector condition operand for a vector select.

I think this is the final step in solving PR37463:
https://bugs.llvm.org/show_bug.cgi?id=37463

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D81661