[MLGO] Improved support for AOT cross-targeting scenarios

The tensorflow AOT compiler can cross-target, but it can't run on (for
example) arm64. We added earlier support where the AOT-ed header and object
would be built on a separate builder and then passed at build time to
a build host where the AOT compiler can't run, but clang can be otherwise
built.

To simplify such scenarios given we now support more than one AOT-able
case (regalloc and inliner), we make the AOT scenario centered on whether
files are generated, case by case (this includes the "passed from a
different builder" scenario).
This means we shouldn't need an 'umbrella' LLVM_HAVE_TF_AOT, in favor of
case by case control. A builder can opt out of an AOT case by passing that case's
model path as `none`. Note that the overrides still take precedence.

This patch controls conditional compilation with case-specific flags,
which can be enabled locally, for the component where those are
available. We still keep an overall flag for some tests.

The 'development/training' mode is unchanged, because there the model is
passed from the command line and interpreted.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D117752