[mlir][Python] Support finding pybind11 from the python environment.

* Makes `pip install pybind11` do the right thing with no further config.
* Since we now require a version of pybind11 greater than many LTS OS installs (>=2.6), a more convenient way to get a recent version is preferable.
* Also adds the version spec to find_package so it will skip older versions that may be lying around.
* Tested the full matrix of old system install, no system install, pip install and no pip install.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D91903