Change CallGraphNode to maintain it's Function as an AssertingVH

for sanity.  This didn't turn up any bugs.

Change CallGraphNode to maintain its "callsite" information in the 
call edges list as a WeakVH instead of as an instruction*.  This fixes
a broad class of dangling pointer bugs, and makes CallGraph have a number
of useful invariants again.  This fixes the class of problem indicated
by PR4029 and PR3601.

llvm-svn: 80663