lld-link, clang: Treat non-existent input files as possible spellos for option flags

OptTable treats arguments starting with / that aren't a known option
as filenames. This means lld-link's and clang-cl's typo correction for
unknown flags didn't do spell checking for misspelled options that start
with /.

I first tried changing OptTable, but that got pretty messy, see PR41787
comments 2 and 3.

Instead, let lld-link's and clang's (including clang-cl's) "file not
found" diagnostic check if a non-existent file looks like it could be a
mis-spelled option, and if so add a "did you mean" suggestion to the
"file not found" diagnostic.

While here, make formatting of a few diagnostics a bit more
self-consistent.

Fixes PR41787.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D62276

llvm-svn: 361518