ADT: Split ilist_node_traits into alloc and callback, NFC

Many lists want to override only allocation semantics, or callbacks for
iplist.  Split these up to prevent code duplication.
- Specialize ilist_alloc_traits to change the implementations of
  deleteNode() and createNode().
- One common desire is to do nothing deleteNode() and disable
  createNode().  Specialize ilist_alloc_traits to inherit from
  ilist_noalloc_traits for that behaviour.
- Specialize ilist_callback_traits to use the addNodeToList(),
  removeNodeFromList(), and transferNodesFromList() callbacks.

As a drive-by, add some coverage to the callback-related unit tests.

llvm-svn: 280128