[mlir][transform] Utilize op interface instead of tensor::TrackingListener

Add a new interface `FindPayloadReplacementOpInterface` to specify ops that should be skipped when looking for payload replacement ops. Such ops are typically metadata-only ops.

With this change, we no longer need to maintain a custom TrackingListener in the tensor dialect.

Note: `CastOpInterface` by itself is not sufficient. Some metadata-only ops such as "tensor.reshape" are not casts, and it would be incorrect for them to implement the `CastOpInterface`.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D151888