CodeGen: Unify handling guard variables in the Itanium C++ ABI

We previously treated ARM separately from the generic Itanium ABI for
initializing guard variables. This code duplication led to things like
the ARM path missing the memory barrier for threadsafe handling, and a
highly misleading comment about how we were (mis)using the generic ABI
for ARM64 when really it went through the ARM codepath.

This unifies the two code paths. Functionally, this changes the ARM
and ARM64 codepath to use one byte loads instead of 4 and 8,
respectively, and adds the missing atomic acquire to these loads.
Other architectures are unchanged.

llvm-svn: 206937