AMDGPU/GlobalISel: Use more accurate legality rules for merge/unmerge

Most notably, we were incorrectly reporting <3 x s16> as a legal type
for these. Make sure these aren't legal to help make progress on
fixing the artifact combiner and vector legalizer
rules. Unfortunately, this means spreading the -global-isel-abort=0
hack, although this doesn't change the legalizer result in any
situation.