[mlir][IR] Change `MutableOperandRange::operator[]` to return an `OpOperand &` (#66515)

`operator[]` returns `OpOperand &` instead of `Value`.

* This allows users to get OpOperands by name instead of "magic" number.
E.g., `extractSliceOp->getOpOperand(0)` can be written as
`extractSliceOp.getSourceMutable()[0]`.
* `OperandRange` provides a read-only API to operands: `operator[]`
returns `Value`. `MutableOperandRange` now provides a mutable API:
`operator[]` returns `OpOperand &`, which can be used to set operands.

Note: The TableGen code generator could be changed to return `OpOperand
&` (instead of `MutableOperandRange`) for non-variadic and non-optional
arguments in a subsequent change. Then the `[0]` part in the above
example would no longer be necessary.