[X86][SSE] Attempt to match OP(SHUFFLE(X,Y),SHUFFLE(X,Y)) -> SHUFFLE(HOP(X,Y))

An initial backend patch towards fixing the various poor HADD combines (PR34724, PR41813, PR45747 etc.).

This extends isHorizontalBinOp to check if we have per-element horizontal ops (odd+even element pairs), but not in the expected serial order - in which case we build a "post shuffle mask" that we can apply to the HOP result, assuming we have fast-hops/optsize etc.

The next step will be to extend the SHUFFLE(HOP(X,Y)) combines as suggested on PR41813 - accepting more post-shuffle masks even on slow-hop targets if we can fold it into another shuffle.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D83789