[libc++] Clarify _LIBCPP_NEW_DELETE_VIS for Windows

Replace a stale reference to cxx_EXPORTS with _LIBCPP_BUILDING_LIBRARY,
and clarify why the operator new and delete family of functions are
marked dllexport when building but *not* dllimport when including the
header externally.

The new code is identical to the intent of the old code (and would be
functionally equivalent were cxx_EXPORTS still defined when building
libc++). The overall behavior is not ideal, since Microsoft's operator
new and delete functions will get called instead of libc++'s, but I
think consistently calling msvcrt's functions is better than either
calling msvcrt's or libc++'s functions depending on header inclusion.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D25042

llvm-svn: 282644