[asan] Enable detect_stack_use_after_return=1 by default

By default -fsanitize=address already compiles with this check,
why not use it.
For compatibly it can be disabled with env ASAN_OPTIONS=detect_stack_use_after_return=0.

Reviewed By: eugenis, kda, #sanitizers, hans

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D124057