[SLP] make checks for cmp+select min/max more explicit

This is NFC-intended currently (so no test diffs). The motivation
is to eventually allow matching for poison-safe logical-and and
logical-or (these are in the form of a select-of-bools).
( https://llvm.org/PR41312 )

Those patterns will not have all of the same constraints as min/max
in the form of cmp+sel. We may also end up removing the cmp+sel
min/max matching entirely (if we canonicalize to intrinsics), so
this will make that step easier.