[mlir][IR] Rename "update root" to "modify op" in rewriter API (#78260)

This commit renames 4 pattern rewriter API functions:
* `updateRootInPlace` -> `modifyOpInPlace`
* `startRootUpdate` -> `startOpModification`
* `finalizeRootUpdate` -> `finalizeOpModification`
* `cancelRootUpdate` -> `cancelOpModification`

The term "root" is a misnomer. The root is the op that a rewrite pattern
matches against
(https://mlir.llvm.org/docs/PatternRewriter/#root-operation-name-optional).
A rewriter must be notified of all in-place op modifications, not just
in-place modifications of the root
(https://mlir.llvm.org/docs/PatternRewriter/#pattern-rewriter). The old
function names were confusing and have contributed to various broken
rewrite patterns.

Note: The new function names use the term "modify" instead of "update"
for consistency with the `RewriterBase::Listener` terminology
(`notifyOperationModified`).