[Driver] Only check -nostdinc++ for -stdlib++-isystem

A drive-by change in 53c98d85 made
-stdlib++-isystem be suppressed by -nostdinc and -nostdlibinc in
addition to -nostdinc++. However, that's contrary to the intent of the
flag. It's common to provide your own C++ headers (e.g. when building
libc++ by itself or as a compiler-rt dependency) but rely on the system
C headers, and having -stdlib++-isystem only look at -nostdinc++ allows
us to customize both the C header path (via -nostdinc or -nostdlibinc)
and the C++ header path (via -stdlib++-isystem) at the toolchain level
but still let users of the toolchain provide their own C++ headers. Add
a comment explaining the rationale to make it clearer.