[index] Fix performance regression with indexing macros

When using FileIndexRecord with macros, symbol references can be seen
out of source order, which was causing a regression to insert the
symbols into a vector. Instead, we now lazily sort the vector. The
impact is small on most code, but in very large files with many macro
references (M) near the beginning of the file followed by many decl
references (D) it was O(M*D). A particularly bad protobuf-generated
header was observed with a 100% regression in practice.

rdar://78628133