[mlir][linalg][bufferize] Add dialect filter to BufferizationOptions

This adds a new option `dialectFilter` to BufferizationOptions. Only ops from dialects that are allow-listed in the filter are bufferized. Other ops are left unbufferized. Note: This option requires `allowUnknownOps = true`.

To make use of `dialectFilter`, BufferizationOptions or BufferizationState must be passed to various helper functions.

The purpose of this change is to provide a better infrastructure for partial bufferization, which will be fully activated in a subsequent change.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D114691