[mlir][ODS] Change `get...Mutable` to return `OpOperand &` for single operands (#66519)

The TableGen code generator now generates C++ code that returns a single
`OpOperand &` for `get...Mutable` of operands that are not variadic and
not optional. `OpOperand::set`/`assign` can be used to set a value (same
as `MutableOperandRange::assign`). This is safer than
`MutableOperandRange` because only single values (and no longer
`ValueRange`) can be assigned.

E.g.:
```
// Assignment of multiple values to non-variadic operand.
// Before: Compiles, but produces invalid op.
// After: Compilation error.
extractSliceOp.getSourceMutable().assign({v1, v2});
```