[lld-macho] Refactor archive loading

The previous logic was duplicated between symbol-initiated
archive loads versus flag-initiated loads (i.e. `-force_load` and
`-ObjC`). This resulted in code duplication as well as redundant work --
we would create Archive instances twice whenever we had one of those
flags; once in `getArchiveMembers` and again when we constructed the
ArchiveFile.

This was motivated by an upcoming diff where we load archive members
containing ObjC-related symbols before loading those containing
ObjC-related sections, as well as before performing symbol resolution.
Without this refactor, it would be difficult to do that while avoiding
loading the same archive member twice.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D108780