[MSVC] Don't add -nostdinc++ -isystem to runtimes builds

If the host compiler is MSVC or clang-cl, then the compiler used to
buidl the runtimes will be clang-cl, and it doesn't support either of
those flags.

Worse, because -isystem is a space separated flag, it causes all cmake
try_compile tests to fail, so none of the -Wno-* flags make it to the
compiler in libcxx. I noticed that we weren't passing
-Wno-user-defined-literals to clang-cl and were getting warnings in the
build, and this fixes that for me.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D94817