[clangd] Improve performance of dex by 45-60%

Take full advantage of AND's iterator children size estimation: use early reset
in sync() and prevent large overhead. The idea is that the children at the
beginning of the list are smaller and cheaper to advance. Very large children
negate the effect of this performance optimisation and hence should be
advanced only when absolutely necessary. By reducing the number of large
iterators' updates, we increase the performance by a large margin.

This change was tested on a comprehensive query dataset. The performance
boost increases with the average length of the query, on small queries it is
close to 45% but the longer they go the closer it gets to 60% and beyond.

Reviewed By: sammccall

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D106528