[Inliner] Make recusive inlinee stack size limit tunable

For recursive callers, we want to be conservative when inlining callees with large stack size. We currently have a limit `InlineConstants::TotalAllocaSizeRecursiveCaller`, but that is hard coded.

We found the current limit insufficient to suppress problematic inlining that bloats stack size for deep recursion. This change adds a switch to make the limit tunable as a mitigation.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D129411