[clang-tidy] Add alias cppcoreguidelines-use-default-member-init

And deprecate identical functionality from
cppcoreguidelines-prefer-member-initializer, which had too many
responsibilities and a tight coupling to the
modernize-use-default-member-init check.

Fixes https://github.com/llvm/llvm-project/issues/62164.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D148460