[mlir][sparse] refine heuristic for iteration graph topsort

The sparse index order must always be satisfied, but this
may give a choice in topsorts for several cases. We broke
ties in favor of any dense index order, since this gives
good locality. However, breaking ties in favor of pushing
unrelated indices into sparse iteration spaces gives better
asymptotic complexity. This revision improves the heuristic.

Note that in the long run, we are really interested in using
ML for ML to find the best loop ordering as a replacement for
such heuristics.

Reviewed By: bixia

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D109100