lld: Add --color-diagnostic to MachO port, harmonize others

This adds `--[no-]color-diagnostics[=auto,never,always]` to
the MachO port and harmonizes the flag in the other ports:
- Consistently use MetaVarName
- Consistently document the non-eq version as alias of the eq version
- Use B<> in the ports that have it (no-op, shorter)
- Fix oversight in COFF port that made the --no flag have the wrong
  prefix

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D91640