[X86][SSE] Remove XFormVExtractWithShuffleIntoLoad to prevent legalization infinite loops (PR43971)

As detailed in PR43971/D70267, the use of XFormVExtractWithShuffleIntoLoad causes issues where we end up in infinite loops of extract(targetshuffle(vecload)) -> extract(shuffle(vecload)) -> extract(vecload) -> extract(targetshuffle(vecload)), there are just too many legalization checks at every stage that we can't guarantee that extract(shuffle(vecload)) -> scalarload can occur.

At the moment we see a number of minor regressions as we don't fold extract(shuffle(vecload)) -> scalarload before legal ops, these can be addressed in future patches and extension of X86ISelLowering's combineExtractWithShuffle.