[SLP]Fix PR56251: Do not remove the reordering from the root node, being used as an operand.

If the root order itself does not require reordering, we can just
remove its reorder mask safely (e.g., if the root node is a vector of
phis). But if this node is used as an operand in the graph, we cannot
delete the reordering, need to keep it. Otherwise the graph nodes are
not synchronized with the operands. It may cause an extra gather
instruction(s) or a compiler crash.
Also, need to be very careful when selecting the gather nodes for
reordering since there might several gather nodes with the same scalars
and we can try to reorder just the same node many times instead of
different nodes.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D128680