[AArch64] Further restricts when a dup(*ext) can be rearranged

In most cases, the dup(*ext) pattern can be rearranged to perform
the extension on the vector side, allowing for further vector-specific
optimisations to be made. However the initial checks for this conversion
were insufficient, allowing invalid encodings to be attempted (causing
compilation to fail).

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D94778