[lldb] Refactor OptionValue to return a std::optional (NFC)

Refactor OptionValue to return a std::optional instead of taking a fail
value. This allows the caller to handle situations where there's no
value, instead of being unable to distinguish between the absence of a
value and the value happening the match the fail value. When a fail
value is required, std::optional::value_or() provides the same
functionality.