[libcxxabi,libunwind] support running tests in standalone mode

Remove check for standalone and shared library mode in libcxxabi to
allow including tests in said mode. This check prevented running the
tests in standalone mode with static libraries, which is the case for
baremetal targets.

Fix check-unwind target trying to use a non-existent llvm-lit executable
in standalone mode. Copy the HandleOutOfTreeLLVM logic from libcxxabi to
libunwind in order to make the tests work in standalone mode.

Reviewed By: ldionne, #libc_abi, #libc

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D86540