[cmake] Update creation of object library dependencies for LINK_LIBS PUBLIC

We need to avoid declaring dependencies on strings which are valid
LINK_LIBS and not valid targets.  Previously, we used if(TARGET) to
check this condition.  However, if(TARGET) checks whether a target has
been created (in the cmake subdirectory traversal order) and not
whether it *will* be created.  This results in annoying directory
ordering problems.

This patch changes the check to more explicitly eliminate problematic
libraries (namely -lpthread) using a REGEX.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D79837