[DebugInfo][InstrRef] Avoid stack-slot-coloring changing codegen due to DI

Stack slot colouring adds "weight" to slots if a non-dbg-value instruction
refers to it. This, unfortunately, means that DBG_PHI instructions can have
an effect on codegen. The fix is very simple, replace isDebugValue with
isDebugInstr.

The regression test contains a scenario that reproduces this problem; I've
represented both normal-debug mode and instr-ref debug mode instructions
in comment lines prefixed with AAAAAA and BBBBBB, and un-comment them with
sed to test that the two different modes produce the same behaviour.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D108627